Adventurous couples can buy a pornographic video and watch it together. That is generally a sure-fire way to end up in bed. In fact, it is usually when couples are in bed that they watch such films. And if the film is a good one they will enjoy being turned on as they watch it. Many couples find that the provocative content stimulates them to duplicate what is being viewed. They are impulsively driven to touch each other, kid around, mimic the sex acts, and swing from the imagined chandelier as they tickle each other’s fancy.
In many countries in the world, including most industrialized ones, pornography is not banned or hidden from view. For example, at King’s Cross district in Sydney, Australia a section of the city is designated to show and sell pornography Sex oriented videos, DVDs, books, sex toys, lubricants, assumed aphrodisiacs, are sold in kiosks and stores. Strip clubs, restaurants, massage parlors and other clubs are available to meet members of the opposite sex.
In Europe, in many countries, and cities pornography is not hidden and thus available for adults. In all the countries there are restrictions to the sale of pornography to children and prosecution of offenders is open and continuous.
In the US pornography is not banned from sale to adults although there is no tolerance on anyone abusing the Child Pornography laws.
But for the purpose of improving the sex life of adults pornography has a place for some. Do you have to be lonely or hard-up to use porn? The answer is No. Porn can be a substitute for sex for many lonely and sex starved adults, mainly men, and for adults without a partner who like visual stimulation for self-arousal.
Finally, let’s examine whether pornography can fit into the armamentarium of the average adult who wishes for increased stimulation for lovemaking. What can porno offer?
As with any movie there is added stimulation by watching real pictures compared to imaging such scenes. Some porno videos actually tell a reasonable story where there is more than just sexual exploitation. So some selection is necessary. Google is a good resource to discover what are considered the best sex videos made in the past few decades.
Beside adding visual stimulation couples can mimic what they see, learn about new positions, empathize with the excitement of the sex partners, imagine participating in the viewed sex, experience sex beyond their own interests, such as gay, bi, S and M, bondage, oral and anal sex, and the use of fetishes. Some show dancing, foreplay that could be stimulating and perhaps above all can act as a stimulus to open the viewers to become freer and lustier about sex.
If you attempt to try out the benefits of sex videos and it is new to you imagine becoming an adventurer and explorer so you don’t take a negative bias into your viewing. An open mind will allow you to gain what might be there for you. At the very worst it won’t have any effect on you and may even turn you off. If so, just chalk it up as another interesting experience.
To determine if pornography may be a stimulus for your personal sex lives approach its use openly. It might be a new vehicle for greater enjoyment of sex for occasional use or even frequent use. Remember adults have no restrictions on what they mutually do and prefer behind closed doors. So enjoy the movies and enjoy the sex and know you have taken another step to gaining a new stimulus for sex and love.
The most common problem that couples have sexually is amazingly that they put too much pressure on one another. Instead of sex being a time to celebrate the relationships and have a good time, it turns into a weird form of work where the guy’s goal is to make her orgasm. If she doesn’t orgasm, he often feels like a failure, even if the rest of the relationship is pretty solid. The irony is that all this pressure makes it far less likely that she will orgasm. This is why it can be beneficial for couples to play an orgasm game.
One thing that is important to the sexual experience is the feeling of regression: returning to a fun-loving, carefree state. Orgasm games are a great way to tap into this state. Simply by giving an adult twist to any game can really make it fun. Stripping card games and naked twister are some of the more fun ones, but pretty much anything that is fun can be used. The key is to keep it fun and enjoyable, but also erotic and adult at the same time!
Games are great for couples as they take the pressure that can sometimes creep into relationships away. They also allow you to experiment with slightly unusual fantasies, as the context of the ‘game’ is fun and non-threatening. Make it fun enough and she will naturally want to play until the end, providing she comes first, of course.